Although everyone looks forward to their pre-wedding bachelor or bachelorette party, one Influencer says they’re actually terrible.

@thesheajones explains that she recently went out with a friend, and they ran into a bachelor party.

She said they were approached by some of the guys who said they were pretty, and that the guys were looking for some girls to come party with them.

Shea Jones and her friend went over to talk to the groom and said that they wouldn’t be partying with them, because “we have respect for your bride at home.”

She adds, “as a groom you should probably have better friends that you choose to bring on your bachelor party.”

Shea concludes that this is a fear many brides have, that their soon-to-be husbands are out with friends who invite women to party with them. She says that women who run into these situations should say no, and have respect for the women at home waiting for their soon-to-be husband while he’s out trying to get into trouble.